I’ve recently come to the realization that I sometimes take things a little too seriously. Someone very close to me helped me come to that conclusion and I wasn’t very happy about it when
he they pointed it out, but after some thought I realized how much it might help to work on lightening up a bit. I don’t take everything seriously, don’t get me wrong, I laugh a lot and can have a great time, but there are a few things I take very seriously. Namely: bedtime, naps (mine included..hey, I’m growing another person!), what we eat, having a semi clean house, and so maybe there are a few more things on my list. I think it is so easy to get caught up in the little things that we forget what’s truly important. The past few days I’ve been really focusing on lightening up a bit. Ii even put a little sign up to help remind me. My house has been a bit messier, dinner has been a bit later, bedtime has even been pushed back a bit, but it has actually felt really good. I’ve been able to focus a little bit more on just enjoying my family and the wonderful life we have.
In a group of mom’s today one of the gals was talking about picking up her kids up from day care and seeing other mom’s who just had to have it all together. They looked immaculate coming home from work and she just knew they were going home to a clean house and an amazing dinner would soon be on the table. How many times have we thought that? Well, I am hear to assure you that I am not a perfect mom/wife/person and I haven’t met one yet. (If you happen to be one, please don’t spoil my post by telling us!) I frequently have to step back and take a personal inventory of me, like I have been the past few days.
Are the things that I’m doing the most important?
Am I choosing to do the best things with my time, since I know I can’t do it all?
I try to consistently remind myself of the fact that I can’t do everything. And I am quite sure that I am not alone in this. I loved a discourse by Dallin H. Oaks that discusses this very thing. He says, “We have to forego some good things in order to choose others that are better or best.” So true!
Do I need to scale back?
What are my priorities?
What is really important?
Am I spending the right amount of time on the things that really matter most to me?
Have you ever had one of these personal inventories? Let me tell you, they are wonderful. I always come away with new goals, things to let go of, and a renewed excitement to get started the next day. And the funny thing is that when I really do lighten up and look at what’s really important, many times I find myself with less to do and more time to do the things that matter most.
One of the characteristics of modern life seems to be that we are moving at an ever-increasing rate, regardless of turbulence or obstacles.
Let’s be honest; it’s rather easy to be busy. We all can
think up a list of tasks that will overwhelm our schedules. Some might even think that their self-worth depends on the length of their to-do list. They flood the open spaces in their time with lists of meetings and minutia—even during times of stress and fatigue. Because they unnecessarily complicate their lives, they often feel increased frus
tration, diminished joy, and too little sense of meaning in their lives.
There is a beauty and clarity that comes from simplicity tha
t we sometimes do not appreciate in our thirst for intricate solutions.
For example, it wasn’t long after astronauts and cosmonauts
orbited the earth that they realized ballpoint pens would not work in space. And so some very smart people went to work solving the problem. It took thousands of hours and millions of dollars, but in the end, they developed a pen that could write anywhere, in any temperature, and on nearly any surface. But how did the astronauts and cosmonauts get along until the problem was solved? They simply used a pencil.
Strength comes not from frantic activity but from being settled on a firm foundation of truth and light…It comes from paying attention to the divine things that matter most.
Deiter F. Uchdorf, Of Things That Matter Most
I challenge you to take a personal inventory. Make sure your life is focused on the things that are truly important.